Avoiding the Isolation of a Breakup
You may find yourself going through a breakup without a support network. This could be due to the fact that your friends are all common friends, or maybe even your ex’s friends. Maybe you spent so long in the wrong relatiosnhip that you don’t want to hear “I told you so”, from well meaning friends or family, or maybe you have exhausted all goodwill from your social circle by breaking up and making up so many times over the years. Regardless of the reasons, it’s the end of your relationship and you find yourself all alone dealing with one of the most emotionally harrowing experiences humans endure.
One of our community members found herself in a similar situation, having just turned 35, her long term relationship ended, while she had just moved to a foreign country for work, without any friends. By the time the realtionship ended, she had exhausted her long distance friends and family with the break-up and make-up rollercoaster over many years. No one was willingm to lend a sympathetic ear.
She could have crumbled but she didn’t. She went out. To meetups. To socials organised by social groups. She joined City Socialising and Friends in the City. She found many other souls in the same boat, battling the same demons. One of these souls became a life long friend. Looking back now at her life 10 years later, having found love with another partner, and started a family, she looks back and wonders what would had happened to her had she not found the strength to go out and find her support group.
Even when you don’t feel like it. A heartbreak shared is a heartbreak halved. Engage with our community. Submit your own story. Read our articles. Read other community members’ stories. Hire a professional. Join a meetup in your city. Even without the bandwidth to be around people all the time, please ensure there is someone for you, during those times you need to vent.